What is Gokon?
Gokon is essentially a group blind date where two friends of the opposite gender decide on a date and a place, as wellas the number of people in each team. Then they both invite a few friends of their gender, balancing the numbers in each team. On the selected date, everyone meets at the selected restaurant and the date begins! Everyone introduces themselves shyly, and then they drink, eat, drink some more, then it gets more casual and friendly, somehow making friends in the process. After that, if all went well, the party continues at a bar or karaoke. Everyone drinks even more, and phone numbers are exchanged and may be… a few of them have met the potential future partner.
The Art of Gokon
Gokon is an institutionalized way of meeting new people. Most gokon takes similar process and there are rules and convention practiced to keep things safe and fun. If you know the basics of gokon, such as process of gokon and few tips and how-tos, you will be able to enjoy the gokon party more comfortably and focus more on enjoying meeting new people. So Here are some “how-to rules” for gokon newbies to understand the flow of the gokon, and the expected behavior in each process.
- 101: Refresh the image of gokon
On how to prepare your mindset for Gokon
- 102: Know thyself
Knowing your price before putting out in the market
- 103: Preparing for a gokon
Things to bring, things to study before going to gokon
- 104: How to get there, How to sit where
From your arrival to getting seated
- 105: “My name is…” the self introduction
How to introduce yourself and how to be introduced
- 106: gokon games and drinking games
How to play the gokon games
- 107: getting the phone number
How to get the phone num,ber
- 108: After party for more partyWhat to expect from afterparty
- 109: Review meeting
Team review meeting with your team
- 110: Saying good bye then hello
After gokon communication
There are many Japanese books, magazines, and websites about the best practice tips for bokon. I will keep updating the blog with any interesting tips found. I am trying to find common theme among all these tips flying around the Japanaese media. What are the key to success in gokon?
1) Be normal, to give positive first impression
2) Gokon is a team-work
3) Gokon requires careful planning and organization
Real gokon experiences
Please see my experience in real gokons in Gokon report section.
Please let me know if you have any specific question or topis that you want me to research. Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org, looking forward to receiving interesting comments and question!