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Is it your apperarance? personality? what’s the problem? The 5 reasons you are not “chosen” — in January issue of Anan. ANAN is beauty and fashion magazine for twenty-something year old women. Its kinda like a … well, can’t really think of a equivalent but it’s kind of like a Japanese version of Cosmo or Glamour (though not much about sex)

I found this article while I was preparing up for the TV interview that I mentioned, and was totally shocked to find that I totally fit in the 5 reasons AnAn lists out in the magazine. I’m going to translate the article so you can check if you have any attribute that are unfit to be “chosen” for a partner in Tokyo Meet Market.

How unlikely it is for you to be “chosen”!?

  • I usually wear dark colored clothes – black, gray and other dark colors
  • I do not have male siblings
  • I sometimes reply to SMS more than a day after receiving it
  • Perfect nails and perfect hairstyle is a necessity for hanging out with any guys
  • I have more than 3 hobbies that I’m serious about
  • My hobby includes one of the followings: golf, traveling, wine tasting
  • I have no time for myself and spend most of the time at home and at work
  • I do not hesitate talking about my past relationship to other men
  • I cannot help being nosy about other people’s business
  • I would like to travel abroad at least once a year after I Get married
  • I know what kind of man I want to marry (in terms of occupation)
  • I cannot make the first move even if I like somone

How many of the above statements applied to you?

0 – 3: 30% risk to be not chosen
No need to worry so much at the moment. But to avoid the risk of never being chosen by men, you should be aware of the risks and prevent the risk ASAP

4-7: 50% risk to be not chosen
There’s still a chance to improve your chance. But if you don’t change yourself and age more, you would nbe helpless.  Let’s look at your current life style and improve your chance to be chosen

more than 8: 80% risk to be not chosen
You are at a serious risk of not being chosen by men. You must not be stubborn to your current lifestyle and redeem yourself. The first tep can still be taken?

How many of the above criteria applied to you? Apparently, I have 50% risk… because I wear dark colors, don’t have male siblings, don’t reply to SMS immediately, traveling is my hobby, want to continue traveling after marriage, don’t always make the first move…. because I’m a normal human being with my own taste??

But apparently, that’s the thing about being an “attractive Japanese woman” for Japanese men. You don’t necessary have to have beauty, intelligence, humor, hot body, or good taste. You just be easy going, great listener, nice, and willing to take care of him and the household. I cannot believe it, I cannot believe this woman’s magazine is actually promoting the idea of such boring low standard without telling us to be confident, be who we are, enjoy life. What’s wrong with wearing sophisticated black or grey? what’s wrong with seeing the world, traveling around, eating great food, enjoying life? Is this magazine really going to tell us how to be a boring women JUST so that we get “chosen” by some boring men to be a boring housewife?

This issue of AnAn is VERY intersting, it’s all about building konkatsu strategy for 2010. I will translate few more articles from the magazine in the next few days.

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Just found a funny article written by a professional Konkatsu activist, on men’s fashion in Konkatsu. First of all, I don’t know what it means to be a “professional” in Konkatsu, or why he calls himself a “professional.” If he’s so good at konkatsu, he would have gotten married even without konkatsu, and if he’s pursued the art of konkatsu so much to call himself a “professional” he probably sucks at it and we should not be even listening to this poor man’s opinion.

In any case, he’s a “professional” at Konkatsu and he advises men for all the things you should not be wearing in Konkatsu. The turn-off clothing and accessories for women. He even made a nice illustration of these items (who would wear them all at once) and he is:

List of turn-off fashion

  • Bags : According to a study conducted by advisers at match making agencies and konkatsu set up agencies, the top 3 “No-Nos of men’s fashion” for women are all bags: 1) backpack (20%) 2) handbag (15.8%) 3) belt bag (15%). Men should not be carrying any kind of bag to Konkatsu activities
  • golden necklace : makes you look to getto
  • white socks: mommy’s boy
  • cell phone with too much decorations, hang around your neck
  • shopping bags to carry books and other necessity
  • a belt with weird belt buckle
  • a shirt tucked into pants

Hmm… I kind of agree with the list though. As I was translating, I did agree that most of them would be turn-offs. And I found some Japanese blogger took a picture of himself wearing all the above list, to put the illustration into reality. Pretty damn, but I thought it was funny. He actually goes around his neighborhood and stops at a shop to buy a magazine, just to see if he gets weird looks. But at the end of the day he comes home and concludes, it’s not all THAT about fashion! Here’s the link to the blog

It’s been nearly 2 years since the word Konkatsu was first developed by the authors of “The Era of Marriage Hunting.” And yet, Konkatsu is still a buzzword for Japanese media. The concept has been featured in magazines and books, popularizing the idea that we need to be strategic about finding a life partner. More and more books have been published on the strategy building, more konkatsu products to give young men and women entertainment for konkatsu events. Even shrines are getting in on the konkatsu boom. Businesses ranging from matchmaking services to lingerie makers to professional baseball teams to bakeries to toy factories are trying to fill the romance void.

I have already introduced some of the Konkatsu products: (Konkatsu bra, konkatsu baseball, konkatsu cake) But recently, I found that there have been many more NEW konkatsu related products in the market so I’m gonna introduce these new inventions here. Just for the fun of it.

Compulsory marriage registration kit
This wonderful package includes everything you need to force your boyfriend into marriage registration. “Compulsory marriage registration kit” is latest konkatsu product in the market since December 15th 2009, sold from a diamond store called Sakha diamond. For just $90, the package includes:

  • a proposal ring (cubic zirconia ring, not a diamond)
  • a piggy bank to fill it with 500 JPY coin (=$5) to buy the girl a real diamond engagement ring
  • a written oath for him to promise to buy a real diamond engagement ring (which would be a discount coupon at the time of his real purchase)
  • marriage registration paper and a ink-pad (in Japan, we don’t put signature, we use a stamp with last name)
  • an alarm clock to enter the dead line date and time for wedding

The complete set to force him to marry you! All you need is a strong urge to get married, his address, and a credit card. The process is very simple, you can order the package in the Sakha diamond website, they will deliver the package to your boyfriend’s apartment, he will propose to you with cubic zirconia ring (if you are happy with it, no need to bother with the piggy bank and written oath to make him buy diamond), fill out the marriage registration paper and bring it to the city hall! How easy and simple to finally force him into marriage!

Compulsory proposal kit
Now, if you are the kind of girl with a little more sense and pride, you may not want to force him into marriage with the above products. But maybe, just may be, you wish you could get him to propose to you so at  least you don’t have to worry “where is this all going!” Then Sakha Diamond store also offers Compulsory proposal kit for just $80 (you see, it’s a little cheaper to get him propose to you than to marry you)

The proposal kit has been on the market a little longer than the marriage kit, and is also available on the website for purchase for just $80. The proposal kit is similar to the marraige kit, just doesn’t come with marriage registration paper or the alarm clock. It will allow him a bit more time to get comfortable with the idea of marrying a girl who got him a proposal kit, I guess. The proposal kit, then, includes:

  • a proposal ring (cubic zirconia ring, not a diamond)
  • a piggy bank to fill it with 500 JPY coin (=$5) to buy the girl a real diamond engagement ring
  • a written oath for him to promise to buy a real diamond engagement ring (which would be a discount coupon at the time of his real purchase)

Best of all, both of the products are refundable, if your boyfriend did not propose to you after all that you have tried. If no proposal after 8 days of thedelivery to the boyfriend, the proposal kit/marriage kit are refundable if you have the guts to get it back from his apartment and bring it back to the store that “it did not work.”  You will then, be refunded with $50 cash and a pair of movie ticket to bring your next potential husband! whooray! (or I recommend going to see “he’s just not that into you”)

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Finally, CNN coverage on Japan’s marriage hunting!

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My friend from New York (this girl) recently contacted me with a link to wallstreet journal article saying “i saw this article on the front page of the wall street journal and was reminded of your genius sociological observations!”

I won’t call myself “genius”, but I must admit I’m a little proud of myself for being such a trend spotter.

Ever since I started this blog to explore Tokyo Meet Market and its gokon stories and konkatsu frenziness, it seems the international media has also started to pay more and more attention to new Tokyo Meet Market. With the introduction of the new word “konkatsu,” the world seems to be more and more interested in what’s going on in the Tokyo Meet Market.

And here are some interesting articles that I have seen in the international media:

June 29th

Japan’s Latest Fad: Spouse-Hunting
http://www.newser.com/story/63090/japans-latest-fad-spouse-hunting.html

Japan Has a New Name for the Mating Game: Konkatsu - Wall street Journal
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB124623617832566695.html

July 13th

Fad or crisis? Japan’s ‘marriage hunting’ craze – Diva
http://www.divaasia.com/article/4374

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I heard my friend is going to Konkatsu party, trying out an alternative way to meet men in Tokyo. What is a konkatsu party anyway, how does it work?

Company hosting the party: Exeo
http://www.exeo-japan.co.jp/ex_party/index.html

Participants: 15-20 male and 15-20 female

Things to bring: ID, pen, business card

Party process:

  1. Reception: please arrive on time, reception starts 15min before the start of the party. Show your ID, fill out profile card, put on a number plate (not a name plate!!!) which displays a number you are assigned.Profile card below asks you to fill in responses for the following questions:
    1) name 2) age 3) address 4) city of residence 5) living alone/living with family 6) height 7) horoscope 8 ) blood type 9) occupation 10) city of employment 11) days of no-business day 12) what you look for in opposite sex 13) favorite movies 14) describe your personality in one word 15) how do you spend your free time 16) family structure 17) marriage record 18) illustrate where you want to go for the first date 19) hobbies or special skill 20) favorite food

    The profile will be used for the start of conversation

    profile card

    profile card

  2. Speed dating: The step 2 of the party is conversing with each opposite sex for 3 min, by exchanging the profile card and finding as much information about eachother in the 3 min. At the end of 3 min, you fill out a check sheet to note down your impression of the ones you talked to.

    check sheet to evaluate the opposite sex

    check sheet to evaluate the opposite sex

  3. Approach time: After you’ve talked to everyone for 3 min, fill out “impression card” to evaluate the first impression of each participant and choose 3+ participants you found favorable. Then fill out “approach card” for the participants you would like to get to know more. You can write personal messages, note your contact information on the approach card. The approach card will delivered by the staff in discretion during the “free time”
    Tips for filling out impression card:

    1) mark as many participants as favorable, at least more than 3 up to t or even 10 2) if you really want to find a partner, the best practice to mark as many participants as favorable * Note: tip 1 and 2 are exactly the same things LoL but it’s writte on the card below

    impression card

    impression card

  4. Free time: You will be given aggregated result of “impression card” and “approach card” (so you know who is interested in you) to decide whom to approach during this free time. You will be given 3-4 min to converse with 3-4 participants you want to get to know better. Use the result and be aggressive to approach the potential partners who already like you little bit!
  5. Final vote: After all this meeting, now it’s time to rank your preference for future partner. Rank the top 6 participants in the order of your preference and the agency will match out the result in the back… just few min until you meet the man of your dreams LoL
    *Note: you don’t write the name of the participant, you write down the assigned number… why!? LoL

    final vote is casted

    final vote is casted

  6. Coupling announcement: The successfuly made couples will be announced by the staff by calling out the assigned number. (so not to embarass the female) Male participants will be asked to exit first, and to wait for the female partners to escort them to the exit. If you did not find your match, the agency has “after follow up service” where you can find a way to contact participants of your interst…

    Happy successfully matched couples

    Happy successfully matched couples

July 11th and 12th Nippon Ham vs Lotte game in Sapporo baseball stadium…

The studio was full of female watching the male audiences, not the baseball game in the stadium. “Konkatsu seats,” or baseball watching in the baseball stadium was organized by baseball team Nippon Ham to give an opportunity for baseball fans to meet potential partners during baseball game.

Originally, they had availability of 400 seats for the two days, but due to the increasing number of applicants, Nippon Ham increased the number of availability to 600. 2860 single men and women applied for the Konkatsu seats, and the lucky 600 were able to join the game on the July 11th and again on 12th. The konkatsu seats enjoyed all sorts of entertainment in addition to the baseball game.

The weekend began with 11am at the reception area for the baseball stadium. Before the start of the game, the 300 boys and girls (all have to be over 18) together raised their flags and cheered for the victory of Nippon Ham.  During the game, the boys were asked to rotate their seats to meet as many women as possible.  The baseball day ends with a lottery where a random couples (with matching cards) win trip to vacation, pair baseball tickets, pair baseball t-shirts and they have to search for the matching partner with the matching card to win the prize.  But the biggest prize prepared for the audiences was a chance to throw at the opening pitch ceremony… IF you marry the partner you met in the Konkatsu seat… that is. The fever and excitement in the konkatsu seat were shown in the center TV screen in the stadium, and even the players themselves could not help paying attention to what’s going on in the audience seat.

The news reports that out of the 600 bachelors and bacheloretts, on Saturday the 11th, 28 couples went home happily hand in hand, and 34 couples went home happily on the following day. Due to great success and overwhelming popularity, Nippon Ham is already planning a second round of Konkatsu game for the summer.

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On Wednesday, A Shibuya-based dot-com venture CyberAgent launched a free mobile SNS, named “Otokonoko Bokujo (a.k.a. Otoboku)” meaning boys pasture, targeting females in konkatsu (marriage-hunt). “Boys pasture” was setup to promote communication among women and to help them through the tough road of konkatsu.

This website “Boys pasture” is stirring up controversy among the internet bloggers and the media. The site has been highly criticized for allowing females to treat males as livestock. The website is essentially a cattle fair for eligible bachelors.  Much of the criticism mention it is immoral to represent males by animal icons of cows, horses and lambs.

CyberAgent has defended “Boys pasture” explaining that the site title was named after the recent boom for  grass-eating boys. They report that none of their male employees felt the site title was inapropriate,  the service supervisor judged it was cleared for launch. The company is now taking account of renaming the title.

So what is this “Boys pasture” about?

This konkatsu site allows female users to upload profiles of their male friends. Then the female members can evaluate the profiles of other female users’ male friends as if they are cattles or horses.  This is how it works:

  1. a female user signs up for an account of the service
  2. she will upload portraits and profiles of her male friends to her own “virtual pasture” set up on the site The registered men appear as horses, cows and sheeps in the virtual “farm”
  3. she can categorize each of her male friends by his characterestics like flirty / tough, and carnivorous / herbivorous depending on how aggressively he approaches to a female and each of the male friends is represented by an animal icon such as a horse or cow (which may make you think that males are being treated as livestock bred by females
  4. when a female user makes connections with her female friends on the site, they will be allowed to browse portraits and profiles of eachother’s male friends

The website is also under attack for its privacy protection issues. Because the portraits and the profiles of a female user’s male friends are uploaded and browsed by female users, without the males approval.

I’m wondering if I should express how I personally feel about this site since I have so much to say about it….  sigh…

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Another Konkatsu-related product in the market!

This time, it is a proposal cake (not a wedding cake) designed in collaboration by bridal jewery company I-Primo and boulangerie Marquise in Ginza. This is their second version of the proposal cake but this time, it was designed with a concept of Konkatsu, marriage hunt activities. In order to really understand the humor of the cake, you have to first understand the origin of the word Konkatsu.

The word Konkatsu was developed based on the idea that… “Marriage is something to be pursued with strategy and planning. Marriage hunting should be executed in a similar manner as job hunting. You have to prepare your resume, wear the right suits that makes you look professional and sophisticate, present your best self through the interview, follow up the interview with polite emails and phone calls, and when you get the offer, review the contract and negotiate for your true worth!

This cake, named “Konkatsu offer-letter proposal cake” is exactly the official job offer one recieves after successful Konkatsu activity. It is a cake that comes with a message cared, the offer letter which says “I am pleased to offer you employment with _____ as a future wife. Please understand your refusal to accept the offer would not be accepted by any means.” The cake also has a space to hold an engagement ring under the outer chocolate decoration. They have 2 designs of the cake, one for a proposal from man to woman, and another version for a proposal from a woman to a man.

The cake will be on sale from June 1st (reservation to be accepted from May 18th) and will cost 5000JPY ($50 USD)

Does this cake make fun of the konkatsu activity? Or are they seriously thinking women would be happy to receive a offer letter from their boyfriend? This is really scary to find out… I mean… how romantic it must be to propose to your partner with a job offer! LoL But I was not shocked, I have already heard a shocking story where a college senior student proposed his girlfriend by asking “would you accept a job offer to work for me?”  during the time of job-hunting…. how romantic Japanese men are!

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Just in news! May 13 11:49am

Lingerie company Triumph just introduced a unique bra called “Konkatsu bra” to the public. The Konkatsu bra was designed as encouragement for all the women who are involved in Konkatsu activity, hoping someday to be happily wed.

Triumph was inspired by the recent “konkatsu” frenziness to design the konkatsu bra. “I am currently involved in konkatsu activities,” written on the white bra, which has design that resembles a wedding dress, and features a marriage count down clock  attached on the lower part of the bra. The count down clock starts from “start of konkatsu” and ends deadline time for “happily married”. (BTW old fashioned Japanese typically consider deadline to be the age of 24 )  When an engagement ring is inserted between the cups, the count down stops and melody of wedding march song will start to celebrate the engagement! The bra also has pockets to hold a pen and a stamp (In Japan, signature is not enough to get married, a personal stamp is also needed) everything you need to sign the marriage registration. The matching panty can also function as an apron and has removable panhandler so you can start cooking right away to impress your hubby!

The only dissapointing thing is… it’s not going to be available in stores! It’s not for sale!!

Ok people… it’s getting a bit crazy here… or is it just me? Should I be calling Triumph begging them to commercialize this product?

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insert the ring when you finally get married!

insert the ring when you finally get married!

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