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Gokon rule 103: prepareing for a gokon

Posted on: February 23, 2009

Things to bring:

  1. Cell phone
  2. Business card
  3. Money
  4. Lip cream

Since the main purpose of gokon is networking, cell phone and business cards are the must haves.
In some cases, formal exchange of business cards is more favored than exchanging phone numbers which may seem more private. It is surely easier for men to suggest exchange of business cards than to ask for phone numbers privately. Don’t forget some cash for ovbious reasons, and lipe cream for both boys and girls to have attractive lips.

How to dress

Before you think of how to look attractive or sexy, be clean. For women, it is more favorable to smell like soap than to smell chanel coco. For men, it is more favorable to be clean cut and clean shaved than to carry a Gucci wallet. For both women and men, business casual is the most favorable way to dress for gokon. Don’t go over the top when it comes to accesories, brand wallets and bags, perfumes, and sexiness. It is especially recommended for women to under-decorate themselves. Wearing expensive looking jeweries will intimidate men – they will wonder whether you are better paid than them, or if you already have rich boyfriends giving you expensive gifts.

Check the current news

Before the gokon, you should study the current news on the following topics:

  • trendy TV shows
  • hit songs
  • movies now in theater
  • celebreties
  • sports, especially baseball
  • If you know the industry the participants work in, studying bit of current news of the industry may lead to exciting conversation about his business (which then gives him confidence as a business man which gives him confidence as a man which might leads to affection toward you! who gave him the chance to rediscover his confidence and manhood!)

Other topics you can study for gokon include:

  • Birthdays and horoscopes
  • Blood types and related personality: Make sure you know your blood type if you want to join the discussion of who is compatible with who! Beginning in approximately 1930, the Japanese embraced the idea of matching personality traits with one’s blood type. This phenomenon is as popular in Japan as the idea of matching horoscope with personality is in the States.Almost all Japanese are aware of their blood type. Discussion of blood types is widely popular as a way of gauging relationship compatibility with a potential or current partner. And where else would be a better place to talk about the compatibility of each others blood types if not in gokon! So know your basic blood type stereotypes LoL

Type O:
Type O’s are outgoing, and very social. They are initiators, although they don’t always finish what they start. Creative and popular, they love to be the center of attention and appear very self confident.

Type A:
While outwardly calm, they have such high standards (perfectionists) that they tend to be balls of nerves on the inside. Type A’s are the most artistic of the blood groups. They can be shy, are conscientious, trustworthy, and sensitive.

Type B:
Goal oriented and strong minded, type B’s will start a task and continue it until completed, and completed well. Type B’s are the individualists of the blood group categories and find their own way in life.

Type AB:
Type AB’s are the split personalities of the blood groups. They can be both outgoing and shy, confident and timid. While responsible, too much responsibility will cause a problem. They are trustworthy and like to help others.

Compatability by Blood Groups:
A is most compatible with A and AB
B is most compatible with B and AB
AB is most compatible with AB, B, A and O
O is most compatible with O, and AB

  • Chinese astrology and related personality: In Chinese astrology the zodiac of twelve animal signs represents twelve different types of personality. When people start talking about their birthdays (preferred to just telling their age because it gives bit of time to guess the participants age) they often talk of their zodiac signs, and the related personality to promote their good nature.

For example, a man born in 1982, year of the dog would add that “yes, I am indeed born in the year of dog because I am honest/straightforward/amicable/unpretentious/sociable/ open-minded,…” to promote his good nature

Now you are ready to go to gokon!
The next rule Gokon rule 104 will be about getting there, on time, and making your first impression!


1 Response to "Gokon rule 103: prepareing for a gokon"

Are the Japanese interested in Western Astrology (ex. Aries, Cancer, Scorpio, etc…)?

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