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Gokon rule 101: refresh the image of gokon

Posted on: February 21, 2009

The first step to your success in gokon life is to refresh the image of gokon. Get rid of negative images of gokon, be positive of attending any new gokon, be optimistic about the upcoming gokon, and be excited to simply just meet new people!

It is easy to have a negative image on gokon.

The idea of meeting strangers with a clear common objective to find a boyfriend/girlfriend, the idea of asking your friend to introduce you to their eligible single friends, the idea of reading the lables, the brand names of the attendents company and university, before actually meeting them, the idea of selling yourself in a market, being sized up your value, and sizing up others value… these are just so unappealing…

Gokon is a systematic unromantic way to meet people.
The start of love is most romantic when it happens in the most unexpected of the places and time.
Then love should just sparkle and they would know it’s true love by just looking into eachothers eyes…

But the reality is, in Japan it is difficult to meet new people, and with the shyness of Japanese nature, he/she would not expree the affection and the passion even if they felt it in their first sight…
So, gokon gives such shy people equal chance to meet new people and speak for themselves. Gokon creates a safe, casual, fair environment for strangers to meet and get to know one another. Even the Japanese government is supporting the idea! And if you want to successfuly find the partner in a gokon, you have to refresh and clean the image of gokon, that’s the first step.

Think of gokon as a casual dinner party, an opportunity to mingle with people you share much in common with (i.e., age, marital status, social standing, background) Forget the idea that “everyone is there to hunt for partner”
In a way, we are all looking for “the one” to be loved and to love anywhere anytime? no? Gokon just increases the number of people you can meet in your life, and the number of eye contacts you have with people, thereby increasing the chances of finding the spark of romance. So let go of  the negative images of “gokon” and just enjoy the opportunity to meet the friends of your friend!



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From the Western perspective, what goes on in the Japanese dating scene is really different and interesting! In this shy nation of Japan, meeting new people is almost institutionalized, dating and romance is littered with conventions that protect people from social awkwardness. What are dating conventions and rules in Japan? How do the shy Japanese people meet new people, develop affection, and express their passion? As I research and answer these question, I will write a real time report of what's going on in the Tokyo dating scene, or the "Tokyo Meet Market" here in this blog. I hope you enjoy my blog and a trip around Tokyo Meet Market with me!

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